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What Your Oncologist Will Not Talk About?

The Aftermath of Cancer Diagnosis

The mental and emotional aftermath of a cancer diagnosis can further burden the functioning of our immune system and thus our ability to heal and recover. Though more and more oncologists recognize the benefits of offering mental and emotional support, they still fall short of offering their patients the much needed guidance and support, it’s just not their scope of practice.

How Can You Support Your Cancer Recovery?

There are many avenues you can choose, from the conventional to the holistic, but you can also begin to work yourself on dissolving the building blocks of your stress and suffering. One such tool i share with you in this video.

What You Talk About Matters to Your Well-Being

Based on a new research, substantive dialogue may help increase your state of well-being, but emotional exchanges likely don’t.

In Megan L. Robbins new research which she published at the journal Psycho-Oncology, she examine how patients dialog and conversations impact their experience.

Below please find the quoted article by By J.D. Warren of www.ucr.edu

“They found that everyday, meaningful dialogue unrelated to cancer may facilitate well-being while coping with cancer. A distinction is drawn between substantive and superficial, or emotional, conversation.

Robbins said a previous study by other researchers found that substantive conversation is related to better well-being, but superficial conversation is not.

“The idea is that discussing something of substance, rather than just shooting the breeze with someone about nothing in particular, might be a more satisfying interaction and perhaps fosters relationships better,” Robbins said. “Emotional conversations have substance, but can be more complicated than a non-emotional substantive conversation. For example, the social context has to be supportive for those to go well.”

In fact, in Robbins’ study, she found emotional conversations were related to poorer well-being in some cases.

Robbins’ study found that about one-third of peoples’ conversation is substantive, consistent with past research. Substantive conversations include those about news, political issues, philosophical topics, ideas, or information about a non-emotional topic.

If a participant shared his or her opinions or emotions about a topic – revealing fears, concerns, or aspirations – researchers considered the conversation emotional.

For the study, 52 couples wore an “Electronically Activated Recorder,” or EAR, over one weekend and self-reported well-being. The EAR sampled 50 seconds of ambient sound every nine minutes to estimate the frequency of non-cancer conversation and reveal topics and types of dialogue.

Based on 17 hours awake each day, couples were speaking just under half the time. Patients spoke an average of 19,473 words, and partners spoke 14,535 words per day, Analyses revealed non-cancer talk comprised more than 93 percent of conversations. The most common topic discussed was people.

Substantive conversation was associated with greater well-being, while emotional disclosures were associated with worse well-being – though only for patients, not spouses. Put simply, more emotional conversation may sometimes reflect feeling more depressed; substantive conversation can reflect lower levels of depressive symptoms.

This is the same study group used in a Robbins study that garnered attention in 2017. In the journal Personal Relationships, the paper “Everyday Emotion Word and Personal Pronoun Use Reflects Dyadic Adjustment Among Couples Coping with Breast Cancer,” asserted the use of first-person singular pronouns – I, me, my –  by spouses of cancer patients is related to better marital quality for both partners because the focus was not always on the patient.

Beyond the patients’ well-being, Robbins said the current study again demonstrates that words can reflect important differences in romantic relationships. Achieving marital quality could be as simple as using the right words, and finding balance, the study asserts.

“Our findings suggest it may be fruitful to develop and test interventions that encourage couples to engage in substantive conversations about topics that interest them,” Robbins said. “Interventions could circumvent potential negative side effects, such as distress from discussing cancer, and may have the added positive side effect of strengthening couples’ relationships as they cope with cancer.”

In addition to Robbins, study authors for the paper, “Naturalistically Observing Non-Cancer Conversations among Couples Coping with Breast Cancer” include Alexander Karan (University of California, Riverside), Ana María López (Jefferson University), and Karen Weihs (University of Arizona).”

 

Cancer Wellness Events Boston MA

Back in 2013 I wrote a short post on “Why Cancer Patients Seek Support Outside the Hospital Walls”. It was back then a way for me to acknowledge the growing trend of more and more cancer patients seeking complementary services to their medical care with practitioners not affiliated with their main care place. 

The need of both cancer patients and caregivers to seek support outside the hospital walls is still strong but patients face the challenge of sorting through an overwhelming amount of information in order to decide who is genuine and what may be beneficial.

In a world where every practitioner has a website, YouTube channel, and an arsenal of Social Media outlets available, how do you sort through this maze of resources, methods and titles?

It’s interesting (for me) to observe how many of my clients intuitively resolved this overwhelm of information. Yes, they will do their research online, but the defining factor in their decision making process is more personal. At least in my case, they found out about the work I do through the original form of solid marketing, to good-all method of word-of-mouth.

The human factor, the same one that prompted them to seek support outside of the hospital walls is THE guiding factor in their decision making process about complementary treatments. The bottom line is when you provide a valuable service people talk about it. They share their thoughts and experience with those connected to them through all those amazing points of online access I mentioned before.

I find the swinging of the ‘information’ pendulum fascinating. It gives me, as a practitioner hope that those who need the kind of support I offer will be able to find it.

The Problem with Free Cancer Support Resources

Would you attend a free cancer wellness event in your community? Having offered many such events over the past 10 years my conclusion is that for the most part patients and caregivers associate free events with little or no value.

For me, free resources/events were a way to give back to the community. Reach people that could not otherwise afford being a paid client. These events however are usually poorly attended. Many times no one showed up.

We’ve all been taught in one way or another that you can only get value when you’re paying for it but it’s sad really. There has to be a way for you to find support for a low or no cost at all. There has to be aa way for you to find help outside the hospital walls because, well, life happens outside these walls.

If you are a patient or a caregiver, you know the hospital environment can be isolating. You know that what takes place inside the Chemo Suite is quite different from outside everyday life.

My hope in offering support outside the hospital walls was to address one of the greatest challenges for anyone emerging from the cancer journey, which is to settle back into their daily living.

I am curious, as a practitioner to learn how to better support you and others during this period of time. Do you have a suggestion for me?

If you wish to find out more about events happening this month visit our Calendar.

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Cancer Wellness Boston

Cancer Wellness Boston

With the onset of illness, emphasis is often placed on treating the physical and biological. This makes perfect sense because that’s where the crisis is most visible; however, there is an inner crisis, an invisible one, that requires our attention as well. This is the inner crisis we call suffering and there is a new Cancer Wellness Online program now available to cancer patients and cancer survivors in Boston . Suffering breads stress. We know from research in the field of Psychoneuroimmunology that stress impair immune function.

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Cancer Wellness Boston Online Program

This online cancer wellness program is important for you because by resolving suffering and stress you can increase resiliency and improve your body’s ability to defend against and eliminate cancer.

While there is more than one way to have more wellness during cancer treatment, this online cancer wellness program highlight the role the mind play in healing and recovery. For details call (617) 564-0707 or click here to

Cancer Wellness is Not Therapy

There are only a few medical facilities within our great nation that as a standard of care give attention to the individual patient’s emotional and mental state throughout their course of therapy. While this represents a step in the right direction, this type of therapy engages (primarily) the part of our mind called the Conscious mind, and therefore, can not, by design, penetrate the realm of the Subconscious mind where the fortress of the authentic-self resides. The end result is that patients continue to feel unchanged or untouched from within; therefore fear, worry and self-blame continues to plague them long after treatment has ended. For details call (617) 564-0707 or visit us online

The Road to Cancer Wellness

The road to wellness this post highlights does not cross paths with the Law of Attraction or any other associated metaphysical system. The success of these methods is so hard to measure that it often backfires. Without the ability to measure our progress, we risk feeling even more helpless, inadequate, punished, and less worthy of healing. Call for details (617) 564-0707 or click here to

The Realm of the SUBCONSCIOUS Mind

So, how do we reach this inner realm of the mind? The answer is so simple you might miss it. We utilize our mind’s ability to “see” in a constructive way, then burn this “vision” into every nerve and fiber in our body. We use our creative ability to form detailed mental images in our mind’s eye and through practice and disciplined repetition plant these images like we would a seed in the fertile ground of our mind, more accurately, the all-powerful part of our mind called the Subconscious mind. This becomes our road map or blueprint for wellness. Call for details (617) 564-0707 or click here to

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wishing you much health and well being
Avinoam Lerner


Sources

(1) source: Cancer Wellness Mastery
(2) source: Cancer Wellness Mastery Registration
(3) source: Full article – Strategies to Lessen Cancer Treatment Side Effects
(4) source: [Portal:Keywords] Cancer Online Support Video