Cancer and Trauma

Cancer and Trauma

The connection between cancer diagnosis with trauma isn’t clear from the get-go. And since medical personnel are unlikely to talk about emotional injury, many will never seek support.

Before hearing these three powerful words, “You Have Cancer,” you were someone’s father, mother, son, or daughter; you had hopes, dreams, and aspirations. The moment those words reach your ears, everything changes. You are now a cancer patient.

Change = Trauma

I’ve written about the shock of cancer diagnosis, the sense of helplessness and hopelessness that creeps in when facing a life-threatening illness. I’ve written about fear, anxiety, and despair. The one thing that is less talked about is the impact or injury we struggle with, the trauma of cancer, which is both deep and wide.

Change, especially a change to our state of health, can be debilitating. Change is no laughing matter, yet it is said that the only people who like change are busy cashiers or babies with dirty diapers. Laughing aside, change can be overwhelming and disorienting.

When you think about it, a cancer diagnosis forces us to become very comfortable with change. The most obvious change is to our identity, from a healthy person to someone who is sick. Then there’s a change to our daily routine due to appointments and procedures. We experience a change in our mobility, productivity, and what we can and can no longer do.

You may not call this level of change injury or trauma, but that’s exactly what we’re facing.

What is Trauma?

According to Psychology Today, Trauma is a person’s emotional response to a distressing experience.

And the reason this is important for us to know is because trauma, if unresolved, can further diminish our resiliency. It can undermine our ability to benefit from treatment and heal.

If you’ve seen any of my recent videos, you heard me state that illness is a call to action. It is a call for us to begin to live more authentically and more aligned with our true core values. In other words, we have to work to heal ourselves while our medical team is working hard to heal our bodies. We must be a part of the solution if we expect the best possible outcome from treatment.

So how do we do that? How can we become allies with our medical team?

The Subconscious Mind – Your Emotional Mind

My answer is that we engage the mind, specifically our subconscious mind. It means taking ownership and responsibility for how we think and feel. We acknowledge that there are certain patterns that we’ve abided by that became our identity. Then, we can decide which of these patterns we want to keep and which we want to change.

To do this work properly, we need support. The first port of support for many patients is therapy, as in talk therapy. But the reality is that conventional therapy i.e. psychotherapy, engages the conscious part of our mind, that is, the thinking, rational, and logical mind. That’s unfortunate because it’s not the part of your mind where emotions come from. No, that’s the subconscious mind, which is outside their scope of practice.

If you’re looking to address cancer and trauma, you need something else; something more goal-oriented and result-driven that engages the subconscious mind, and a good place to start is right here… CLICK HERE.

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The Key to Improving Your Medical Cancer Treatment Outcome

A cancer diagnosis can turn our whole world upside-down. Until that moment, you were busy living life, building your empire, and chasing your dreams. But the moment you heard these words spoken, you became a cancer patient.

Impact of Cancer Diagnosis

Yes, a cancer diagnosis is often challenging to process mentally, emotionally, and even physically. It can be disorienting and overwhelming and bring up many powerful emotions, like fear, anxiety, despair, and helplessness.

If you or your loved ones were in this situation, you already know that cancer affects a lot more than just our physical body. Yes, treatment is applied to the body; that’s the job of our medical team from this moment on; that’s what modern medicine is for. But we also have a job if we wish to optimize our experience during our medical cancer treatment, and our job is to take care of us, the person within that physical body.

The Key to a Better Outcome

It’s not enough to simply show up to appointments and submit our body to whatever our doctor prescribes. If we wish to get the best possible outcome, we need to be a part of the solution, and that’s the one factor, the key to a better outcome and quality of life.

We know through research that going into any medical procedure during our cancer care with the right state of mind will yield fewer complications, shorter hospital stays, a faster recovery rate, and a better outcome.

Playing a Greater Role in Our Healing

What does it mean to play a greater role in our journey back to health? It means recognizing that our body and mind are interconnected. It means identifying patterns we abided by that became our personality, our identity, patterns that may unintentionally now stand in the way of our recovery.

This does not mean going to so-called talk therapy sessions. Those are not as useful in this scenario as we once believed, mainly because they address the conscious mind, which is rational and logical. It means addressing the other part of our mind called the subconscious mind, which is our emotional mind.

In much the same way, we address the physical body to resolve physical challenges, like a broken bone; for example, if we wish to resolve our emotional struggle, we must attend to the emotional mind, not the rational and logical one.

This kind of outcome can be achieved in various ways, either online or in person. These programs can help shed light on exactly what can be done and what needs to be done.

In a nutshell, the intensive in-person program helps cancer patients address the root cause of their mental and emotional suffering and support the functioning of their body’s immune system.

The Mindful Remission online program offers cancer patients practical and effective tools, techniques, and strategies. These tools, techniques, and strategies can help patients better prepare for procedures like surgery, chemotherapy, and radiation. Putting these to work can help cancer patients become more resilient and empowered during medical care. They can even help patients maintain a high quality of life. Click this link for more info on the Mindful Remission online program. Click this link for more about the In-Person intensive program.

 

The #1 Concern for Many Patients is…

The #1 Concern for Many Cancer Patients is…

Riding the emotional roller coaster of cancer is scary. Fear, anger, overwhelm, anxiety, and even depression hit you with tremendous force. If you’re like most of my clients, you found yourself unprepared, at least not mentally or emotionally.

Many patients lean on their loved ones to find some comfort, certainty, and support during this time. In a perfect world, this is ideal. After all, those you love, for the most part, love you back. And yet, the number one concern patients struggle with is fearing they are a burden to their loved ones, that they’re too much.

The fear of being “too much” (and being rejected because of it) cause us to think we’ll have to deal with all the pain on our own. This thought is, well… terrifying.

What’s certain is that if you fear making your needs known because you’re concerned about either retaliation or how loved ones will perceive you, you will keep on suffering. As long as you’re reluctant to put your needs first for a change, you will continue the torment.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

The truth is that even if your loved ones love you, they may not know how to support you. Even more so, the intimate dynamics you’ve shared with loved ones until now, they’re still attached to your experience of illness.

At a time when you need safety and boundaries to heal and recover, these dynamics may be counterproductive because they induce more stress than comfort.

If this is your experience and you want to do something about it, your first step is to accept that you need a roadmap and an action plan to break free from helplessness and paralysis, which cripple your immune system. You need support so you can step into an empowered and active mode and a mindset that will propel your ability to recover.

Your Identity Impacts Your Recovery from Illness!

Your Identity Impacts Your Recovery!

I have never seen someone’s health exceed their identity. Does that make sense?

This means that your mental programming and identity directly influence your experience and, therefore, your ability to recover! For those facing cancer, this is a message worth hearing.

Replacing “faulty” mental programming and “distorted” identity with a healthier set of beliefs that supports the body’s campaign for wellness and recovery is what I help people do every day because beliefs can often become self-fulfilling prophecies.

If you believe treatment is difficult or dangerous or see yourself as a victim identity, you will likely experience more fear, stress, and negativity. Unbeknown to you, your brain will initiate the biology associated with the state of emergency we know as the fight-or-flight state. It will be more challenging for your body to benefit from the medicine. As such, treatment becomes all those things you believed it to be.

The opposite of this is true as well, and this is good news. If you believe treatment is supportive, healing, and helpful, or you see yourself as an empowered and active part of the solution, you will feel more in control, and more resilient, and so will your biology. Even your quality of life will improve, and you will experience fewer complications.

Your state of mind is the greatest ally in your recovery journey. And this is the bottom line; unless your subconscious beliefs align with your conscious desire to heal, you are, in effect, working against yourself, rendering any treatment less effective.

It doesn’t have to be this way though. Regardless of where you are along your treatment cycle, you can do plenty to change your experience.

If you want to find out more, CLICK HERE to set up a time for us to speak. It’s free and to the point, and it’s absolutely worth your time.

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